URI Europe Proverb April 2015
The solution to a problem? Tackle it!
We should not be silly.
To live together is not simple. Relationships are not easy. So much can go wrong that it can be called a miracle when people manage to get on for years. However today we are not surprised when people split up. The divorce rate in many countries of Europe is high. Sometimes wounds are deep and the wish to make up vanishes. People sometimes literally give up on each other. And then, disappointed, they each go their separate ways.
We suffer from the impossibility to be relationship-efficient.
However much we would like it: there are no easy ways out. One cannot constantly draw a discreet veil over everything in the belief that all will be solved. Even more: if one does not relate to what could go wrong, sooner or later one pays the bill. And it is a hefty one.
Tackle it.
In a relationship there are at least two persons. Confrontation is the only way out. Notwithstanding your own pain, being prepared to listen and be willing to hear the pain of someone else: that is the first step. To share the responsibility for what went wrong, is a second step. To learn to voice what you feel. To recognize your part in it. To keep believing that the love that binds us remains. It is love that makes a relationship last.
However, we will have to learn to relate to everything that comes our way. To run is the worst choice. To pretend there is no problem, is to create problems. We have to move forward. They who do, lose less energy and win more time.
Therefore the advice is: go for it. Together is always that much easier.
